You don't have to bear too much burden when you live a lifetime.
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walking, another year has passed.
looking back on the past life, endless work, impenetrable hearts, unbearable fetters, unstoppable steps, everything makes people physically and mentally exhausted.
but in fact, most of the time, people are tired because they refuse to let themselves go.
work is busy and life goes round and round. If you are tired, you might as well stop and have a rest.
there is a kind of tiredness called unfinished work
there is a question on Zhihu: "Why are people so tired when they live?"
there is a heartbreaking answer:
because we are always busy.
when I was at school, I was busy doing homework and doing exercises; when I was working, I was busy growing my performance and making money; when I got married, I was busy taking care of my family and dealing with fuel and salt.
it seems that as long as people are alive, they are like a top that cannot stop turning. There are always endless things to do, worries to worry about, and endless money to earn.
once saw a short film called "Life ledger".
the protagonist in the short film is a middle-aged man with a successful career. He lives a two-line life from home to company every day, but most of his life is packed with work.
but what about busy work?
his wife is always carrying a freshly made breakfast and watching him leave in a hurry;
his parents can only look through his photo album when they miss him;
his daughter is always waiting for her father's company.
being dragged forward by life and forgetting to look back, he was unaware of all this.
it was not until the life account book calculated an account for the first half of the middle-aged man's life that he suddenly realized:
even though he earns a lot of money, he is just an out-and-out debtor on the three-page bill for parents, children and health.
the reason why he lives so tired is that he just runs and refuses to stop.
I am so busy that I have no time to spend with my family, no time to read a good book, and no time for my body to recuperate.
many people get wet in the corners of their eyes after reading it.
isn't the protagonist in the short film a microcosm of thousands of us?
We always tell ourselves that busyness is only temporary, and when we are done with the present, we can stop and have a good rest for a while.
in fact, such leisure will never come, because as soon as the old things are done, new things will follow.
just like the answer given in the ledger of Life, people are never finished, work will always be there, but time will not always wait for you.
We will eventually understand that the meaning of life is not to be nervous and busy, but to relax and relax appropriately.
there is no fun in life if you lose your leisure and work hard.
only those who know how to set aside time for life in busy work are the wise men of life and can live without tiredness.
there is a kind of tiredness that no one understands
there was a topic on Weibo:
Why does your moments change from two or three a day to two or three a year?
there is an answer that pokes many people's hearts: because there are fewer and fewer people who know you, what does it matter if you post on moments?
the more you grow up, the more you can feel that there is a kind of tiredness in life that no one understands.
even friends who have known each other for many years will gradually drift away and become unable to understand each other in the sharpening of the years.
I saw a
girl shared her own experience.
she has a friend who has known her for more than ten years.
in her mind, she and her friends are people who understand each other even if they don't talk.
until later, Lillian met someone bad, her marriage broke up, and her job didn't go well.
she realized that there is no real empathy in this world, and some are just like drinking water, cold and warm.
most of the time, even friends who have known each other for many years cannot fully understand your situation and feelings.
Jia Pingwa said in "Walking freely and alone"
"many people are saying that they are lonely, but people who say they are lonely are not lonely." Loneliness is not being snubbed and abandoned, but having no bosom friend and not being understood. "
We feel lonely and tired, not because there is no one with us, but because no one understands.
the older we get, the more we need to realize that not all fish live in the same sea. Similarly, not everyone in this world can understand you, and some setbacks have to be carried through alone.
in this process, the most important thing is how we spend that lonely journey.
Life is short, don't treat yourself badly, and don't ask for too much.
when no one understands, learn to comfort yourself. When there is no one to talk to, learn to talk to your heart.
when you know how to love yourself and how to accept yourself, your heart will be full of strength and life will not be tired.
there is a kind of tiredness called thinking too much
Schopenhauer once said: one of the most special weaknesses of human nature is that we care about what others think of us.
if you think about it, it is true.
many timesThe reason why we feel tired is that we think too much.
A few days ago, my colleague Xiao Nai suddenly offered to leave.
the supervisor asked her why she left, but she wouldn't say anything.
later, the supervisor asked me to beat around the bush and ask Xiao Nai about her situation to see if I could keep her.
Xiao Nai confided in her heart:
"I think it may be that my last project was not good enough and let the supervisor down. Recently, I have been thinking about it every day, and I am really under too much pressure."
it turns out that when she first joined the company, Xiao Nai felt that the supervisor took good care of her, so she became familiar with the new environment very quickly and was very happy at work.
before long, the supervisor put her in charge of a new project on her own.
but things have changed since the completion of the project. The supervisor is not warm to her before, and there is always no "good face" in the company.
Xiao Nai noticed that something was wrong, but she didn't know what the problem was, so she watched the supervisor's eyes every day.
after a period of time, she became more and more anxious and depressed, and after much consideration, she decided to quit her job.
after I conveyed Xiao Nai's words to the supervisor, I didn't expect the supervisor to laugh and then explained:
"some time ago, I had a minor operation on my face, and the doctor wouldn't let me laugh. How dare I laugh? I didn't expect it, but it made her think too much."
We often have a feeling that people are so tired to live.
but most of the time, what makes us tired is not what happened, but our hearts.
people who tend to think too much tend to care too much about what other people think, so that their hearts accumulate so much dust that they are physically and mentally tired.
there is a poem that reads: "there are flowers in spring and moon in autumn, cool breeze in summer and snow in winter. If you have nothing to worry about, it is a good time for the world."
you only live once in your life. If you can't let go of everything and have thousands of knots in your heart, there will be no happiness.
if you know how to take it easy, you can feel thousands of joys even if you live in a ditch.
once you have an open mind, your heart will not be tired; if you let go, you will have less trouble.
to understand that there is only one heart, the capacity is limited, leave the place for more good things, in order not to live tired.
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learn to let go of the tiredness in your heart for the rest of your life
I often hear people sigh: it's hard to be a man, and it's really tiring to live.
indeed, life is like an one-way train. Most of the time we have no choice but to move forward.
maybe you are confused and helpless at the moment, and you don't know where to go: work hard, but you can't see the harbor where you can rest; work hard, but you can't reach the other side of victory.
looking back, you will find that these are the normality of life, all the pain and emotional suffering, but all the scenery in the journey of life.
as Byron Katie once said:
the life we really desire comes from our own hearts.
it is good to live a simple and insipid life. You don't have to bear too much burden in one's life.
the new 2020, may you learn to let go of the burden in your heart, live comfortably, live easily, and live as you like.
one book a week, no matter how busy it is, don't forget to recharge it.
Wen Qian, professional teacher of university broadcast host, Putonghua tester, member of Hubei recitation artists Association.