The highest level of self-cultivation (good in depth)
The highest level of self-cultivation (good in depth)
Only by learning to compare your heart to heart can you win the hearts of the people.

there is a saying in the Analects of Confucius: do not do to others what you do not want.

Don't impose on others what you don't want to bear.

the worst thing about being a human being is to always look at others from your own point of view.

people are not perfect; things are never plain sailing.

to get along, you should know how to think of others. If you look at it from the point of view of others, you will find your own shortcomings.

in communication, you should learn to compare your heart to heart and try to understand the hard work of others, and you will realize that life is not easy.

between people, they are always mutual.

for the sake of others, it is a person's greatest kindness

A sentence was written in the Great Gatsby:

whenever you want to criticize anyone, you have to remember that not everyone in the world has the advantages you have.

once heard a netizen tell such a story:

after ordering takeout, he received several phone calls. After the connection, the other party did not speak, so he hung up directly.

thought it was a prank, so he lost his temper and cursed.

as a result, I saw a message while cleaning my phone, reminding me to put the takeout at the front desk.

it turns out that the takeout boy is a deaf-mute. Due to the difficulty of communication, he will send a text message in advance when delivering food.

afterwards, the netizen blamed himself for his impatience and called on everyone on the Internet if this is the case.

it's best to check if there are any ignored text messages, and don't lose your temper to give bad reviews, hurting these hard-working special people.

in fact, there are many special takeout boys, and it is very difficult for them to find a job.

to this end, they have to make extraordinary efforts.

delivery, a seemingly simple manual task, is also a great challenge for the deaf-mute.

Life is never easy. If you can choose to win everything, no one is willing to wander.

have read such a sentence:

not everyone can live this life easily. Some people have done their best just to live.

it is true.

when others encounter difficulties, knowing how to think of others and lend a hand within their ability is not only a timely help, but also a glimmer of hope when they are confused.

Learning to be considerate of others is the greatest kindness of a person.

for the sake of others, it is a person's top accomplishment

what is self-cultivation?

Zhihu has a high praise answer is: think of others, always think of others.

once read a story:

A farmer invited a blind man to his home for dinner. It was dark by the time the meal was over, and the blind man must go home.

the farmer had no way, so he brought a lantern to the blind man. The blind man said angrily:

"are you laughing at me when you give me a lamp knowing I can't see?"

although you can't see, others can, so as to avoid bumping into you because they can't see you.

the blind are very moved after hearing this.

there are thousands of people and thousands of hearts.

one thing, different people stand from different angles, there will be thousands of answers.

like the allusion of the blind touching the elephant:

the blind man touching the trunk of the elephant said that the elephant is like a radish;

the blind man touching the elephant leg said,

Elephant is like a pillar;



the blind man on the back of the elephant says that the elephant is like a bed.

in fact, this is what an elephant looks like, because it is also part of an elephant;

is not what an elephant looks like, because everyone sees it differently from different angles.

therefore, whether relatives, partners, or friends, know how to think of others and learn to compare their hearts with each other.

if everyone could understand a little more, there would be much less quarrels and contradictions.

tolerance comes from understanding, and understanding comes from thinking about others.

I have read a sentence in "Zengguang Xian Wen": if you blame others, you will forgive others.

knowing how to think of others is a person's highest self-cultivation.

for the sake of others, is the highest state of life

as the saying goes, "there are steep peaks on the side of meandering mountains, but there are thousands of different ways in the past from far and low."

A person is in a different position and sees a different scenery.

in ancient times, there was an old woman who cried every day, crying on sunny and rainy days, and everyone called her "crying woman".

one day, the old monk asked her, "Old man, why do you cry so sadly every day?"

the old woman said:

"I have two daughters. The eldest daughter sells umbrellas and the younger daughter sells straw sandals.

on a sunny day, the eldest daughter's umbrella cannot be sold;

the little girl's straw sandals can't be sold on rainy days;

No doubt periwinkle blue bridesmaid gowns are basic necessity in any affairs. A great collections are on hot sale now!

how can you make a living without business? "

the old monk said:

"Old man, why don't you think so? on a sunny day, your youngest daughter's shoe store is full of shops. The pedestrians who took to the streets on a rainy day ran to your eldest daughter's umbrella shop again, so it wouldn't be bitter. "

the old woman thought his words were reasonable, so she followed his advice.

from then on, I can't laugh every day.From ear to ear, the crying woman turned into a smiling woman.

when people live in the world, it is impossible to have everything they want.

the big things are small and the small things are big.

thinking of others can often solve 80% of life's troubles.

when people get close to others, they need to think of others; when they are close to their hearts, they also need to think of others; they also need to think of others when they are close to each other.

Life, learning to think of others is the highest state of life.

compare the heart to the heart in order to win the heart

Kill a Mockingbird has a good saying:

you can never really know a person unless you walk around in his shoes and think from his point of view.

if you are a mother-in-law and hope that your son will give less bride price when he gets married, daughter-in-law will be sensible and obedient.

if you are a mother-in-law, you want your daughter to be in power at home and give more betrothal gifts to your daughter-in-law.

if you always look at others from your own position, you will always see the bad side.

get along with others, know how to think of others, respect for others is respect for yourself.

those who love to return, and those who are blessed are blessed.

all the surprises and good luck in life are your accumulated character and kindness.

only by learning to compare your heart to heart can you win the hearts of the people.

May you work hard all your life and be loved all your life. Have what you want and let go of what you can't get.